FEELING FREE AFTER YEARS OF WEARING A COSTUME

  In this my 5oth year I now have officially been out to everyone for three years. I have to be honest with everyone I have never felt more free than I do now. It has been a winding toad journey in a few ways. The first reason I have to ve honest I thought I might lose a few of my friends but they have all been great supporters. 

 The first part of the winding road was when I first came out as just gay. But I had my conversations and that didn't seem to be me. There was still something  lying underneath it. And during talks and after going over everything me being bisexual was a stronger more definitive feeling. Then I had more feeling inside me 

 That is the next part in the road it actually was a feeling I had and something people noticed in me. But I didn't see it fully and that was a stronger feminine side than most guys have. I didn't know the exact term until a friend talked to me about it, then I read about non binary and ssid oh my God that is ne. That has always been me for as long as I can remember.

 So I decided to take my costume of David Bezer off.  This was a a costume i had been wearing daily. The person I thought I was supposed to be for everyone. And I am now the real me, the me I've always felt. I am out to everyone as Quinn and I'm hoping 🙏 that my family one day says they won't use the costume for me. I hope they see that it was in a way my own Halloween everyday but not in a good way. 

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