THE LINKS THAT GAVE ME THE STRENGTH TO COME OUTX

The first link in the chain I'm going to mention was the first person to give me encouragement. That person is my ex teacher Tom Gallagher I remember talking with him and saying how I couldn't come out because of my sister and my parents. He told me I needed to give them credit.
 So I told them admitily at first Ike a long while they mentioned how they supported but often didn't. I think my niece and my moms friend really turned them around as things are so different. 
 The next two links I am going to mention are my camp friend Aubyn and her son Taegyn. Although I had never met her son I saw his bravery and that was something that really encouraged me. It even lifted some weight off my shoulders. 
 Another link is my friend Jennifer as she is a very supportive person. When I was upset there were times I could talk with her and she knew just what to say. Always a very understanding person and was thankful for that. 
 My friend Eileen she also encouraged me to come out, she Like Tom showed me that there was going to nothing wrong with me coming out. This was when I told her I was afraid of coming out. She told me there's nothing to be afraid of coming out to the right people at poker, so that's what I did, the rest I think just knew and figured themselves. 
 Two very large helpful links are Jeff and Adriaan. We've had many excellent conversations and also they have helped me see things in different perspectives. It has really helped for everything 
  My friend Samantha who showed me labels are not a necessary thing. I understand this however to make things easier for some of my friends I use labels. It really helps certain friends and even just people I meet understand things more.
 There are many more I could mention but I believe all these people have helped my chain stay solid.
 
 

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