ADDED PRONOUN

  For the longest time I have either been going by my preferred chosen name of Quinn, or my pronouns They/Them/Thier. I will still be using these pronouns nothing has changed in that area. The only thing that has changed and I'm betting with both schock people and they will have a hard time getting used to are pronouns I'm adding. She/Her. I know of course I will 9/10 times still be using  He/Him especially with my appearance, even in my feminine clothing i have my masculine appearance but feel feminine. And that's why I've been waiting so long to write this entry.

 Before I move on to why I will be misgendered another bit of background relati1ng specifically for this entry. As I've written in other blogs about not only feeling non binary but also transgender. Especially feeling extremely free and on cloud nine when I'm wearing my feminine clothes. Now don't get me wrong it's not something I need to do everyday or fo everyday. But it is something that really helps me realize who I am and have been all these years. Not the person I was told I had to be by everyone or sorry by most in society.  Now onto the reasons I will be misgendered. 

 So why will I be misgendered well there is the one obvious reason the up top reason of course. What is another reason I would obviously get misgendered although there are some bald shaved head females the lack of hair plus the first reason. I know I will still get the masculine pal terms and that won't get as bad as most everyone knows me as non binary. None of my friends even the one who thought was gay or bisexual at first meeting would gave thought I had feelings of a transgender person. 

 These feelings were always there obviously just kind of locked in a box. I think over the years I started to see more and more of everything I had locked away. Especially when I talked to certain female friends and would think wow deep down that has been me often. Times when I had a GF and said I'm in the wrong role here.

 Then there have been and were times its awesome being the guy and one of the guys. Especially when I'm doing my gaming or if it's a big sports night. As one of my female poker friends says when I'm here I'm Jack not Jill. That's why I have such a deep feeling of a transgender person and not just non binary when I am able to dress more feminine.

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