KNOWING IT'S OK TO SHOW MY FEM SIDE (MY FULL TRUE SELF)

  I have many people I have to mention and thank in this entry. They are not being mentioned in any particular order, but will be mentioning a fair number. I know there will some I don't get to for those I'm sorry. 

 The first person I'd like to start off with is Aubyn, I'm starting with her because she had been like a sister to me also she was the first person to fully approach me and talk to me. We of course as I've said had many good talks she mentioned how she saw a "dainty" side feminine quality. She told me that was ok, at the time I didn't really see it or think it was ok but I just kept living day to day. Was so glad to see I had a friend who would support me.

 The next people I would like to mention are one of my friend's in the states Kerry and her trans gender son Nathan. Her son has really been talking to Kerry about his transition and what things have been like. All the different challenges. Kerry knew about everything I had been going through all through the years and she said hey you came out right? I said yes that's correct. Her son Nathan hasn't gad the easiest time but he is a fighter like his mother in his own way.

 She went into a speech that I'd heard from a  few other friends. She said you are not only smart funny but you are you and you need to live for you. If you want to live like both A fem side at times and masculine then that's you . You may not be accepted as Quinn by family but you are Quinn.

 I now want to say thank you to my ex GF Jennifer who is now a good friend. It is incredible the support she has shown through my becoming Quinn over the last couple of years. Being able to talk even if it's just twice a week if that happens I know that she is there if I'm stressed out. I find that pretty incredible after everything we went through. I think it's because she always knew but needed me to admit it fully and we can also calmly chat I think because of covid. Its amazing how much it changed things. Also she loves my pictures of me as Quinn and that is a blissful feeling 

 The next person I want to mention is Alexandera, one of people I attended college with. Alex like many other people have been so understanding of what I am did go through. The reason for this is because when I first met Akex in college she was a great female buddy. Now Alex is know as Brock like Kerry he understands about my name change and large identity change too becoming Quinn. Loves all my new pictures and that is a great feeling.

 The last person I'm going to discuss is my poker friend Eileen. I was always most nervous about coming out at poker and that is why I did it slowly. I didn't just jump in and tell everyone took my time. I fully came out yesterday I didn't say this and I know might look mushy tacky. I felt like coming out last night was easy after lots of talks with all my friends, I also felt like in a way doing it in front of Eileen it was like a bit of breather/safety net. 

 I haven't felt like needed that net with any other situation. I'm so relieved that I am 100% officially out at poker, I know most knew but now that I myself am fully out it feels so amazing. I will be relaxed for sure like totally. 

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