FAMILY SUPPORT

🏳️‍🌈   Much of this I wrote about just a few entries ago. However there is a reason for the repeat the two sort of go together.  Recently I had a friend ask me how supportive my family were when I first came out. I had told them and I have to admit I wasn't sure what the reaction was going to be. It was so much better than I could have imagined very supportive and told me how much the respected my decision. Turned out I didn't have all that much to worry about or so I thought.

 Over time before covid I had been trying to be my new self, or as I refer to it my true self. I was feeling good like the world had been lifted from me. Especially when my family had "backed me up". Well there have been a few examples where they showed wasn't as true as I thought. 

 One example was when I traveled with my sister for a weekend and wanted to wear some nice bracelets my friend made me. My mother saw them and said seriously you can't wear those, Kathy that's my sister has no issue with you coming out but dosent think you should be flaunting it. 

 Another example was at a wedding when I had left my pride ring on and the bracelets I mentioned before. My mom rolled her eyes and said seriously you needed to wear those here come on.

 So in overall perspective yes my family does support me. Just they think the people they know might not be ok. So for my friend who is new to the LGBTQ community I truly believe you will have a loving supportive family. Especially these days with everything we are going through. Rock on you are so awesome🏳️‍🌈

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