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🏳️‍🌈With today being Transgender Day Of Visibility I thought it would be a good time to do this entry. Both Transgender and Non Binary have really been playing a huge part in my life for a very long time, as I believe I've mentioned before probably going back to my middle high-school days. So from 15 til I fully came out the at age 47 going on 48.    I really always knew about this as I have mentioned other times. Well not always but since as said 15 or 16, and as people know I had a tricky time up until really my mid 40s.    First off going to catholic school all my life and up until my late 20s I had a deep belief in the Bible God devil heaven and hell. Secondly I have a huge Christian family with total belief with nuns and a priest in the family. So that made things tricky for me.   So how else did I know or at least think I fit into the Transgender Non Binary category. Ok to start off with until ten years ago I had never heard the term Non Binary before. O...

  🏳️‍🌈Today is international Transgender day of visibility. A day over the last couple of years that has really taken a place in my heart. Not only do I know a few people who are transgender personally two very good friends of mine both of thier sons are transgender. Kerry her son Nathan and Aubyn her son Taegyn. Eventhough never having met either I feel close to both Nathan and Taegyn.   I'm very glad for having known both thier mothers for eventually both of them showed me hiding the real me was hurting me physically emotionally and mentally. So it was easier for me to come out. Eventhough my eventhough they say they aren't seem to be towards me homophobic family says they were going to accept me, I got a backhand.  So lately everytime I go into Toronto I'm able to put an outfit on that makes me feel as free as the wind. It might be jeans and t shirt like any guy or a nice blouse skirt or a blouse and jeans. Sometimes I've even done a dress and it's a feeling of...

 🏳️‍🌈 For those of you familiar with and watch the show Law And Order SVU you will understand this. For those that don't you will catch on with my coming out. Especially the latest part of my coming, definitely the part that has made me feel the most free ever since I can't remember when.   Last night I visited my friend Jennifer and we talked for bit, she took some nice new pics in newer "Quinn" outfits that I picked up. During the evening a rerun of SVU came and we decided to watch it as we both enjoy the show.  The episode was about a 15 year boy making transition in a girl. She was being teased on a bridge because of way she was dressed. That's not the part I relate with or at least not directly. As I am not doing a full transition but I do have a free feeling when I'm dressed in my Quinn clothing more relaxed.  I really relate as I feel like my family are like the kids who were picking on the girl in the show. Also as I've mentioned before I feel ve...

🏳️‍🌈   There are two different types families and this is especially true in a few of my straight friends and so many of my friends in the LGBTQ community. In my family I feel we are very distant in many ways, the biggest way of course was when I became Quinn discovered who I truly was. I always have felt isolated from my family but especially on this issue. And it was very hurtful as when I first came out I did come out as "gay" but they accepted it. As a matter of fact my parents one of their best friends is a transgender male and have many times told me they have no problem with his decision.     Now I have my other family my non blood family who is incredibly supportive of my coming out. Very supportive of of both when I initially came out and when I came out as Quinn my preferred name the name I love hearing and seeing every time that I do. Some of the amazing non blood family members are people that have been in my life for a long time and have all helped me ...

  Last Saturday was an anniversary, however not a good anniversary. It now has been 10 years since our family friend Huey Quinn passed away. It sure dosent seem that way. I was telling a couple of people about it and both talked to me but they talked to me using my pronouns.  The first person said to me I think they chose the name Quinn to help you remember him. Also to keep some of his spirit in your soul. I can tell that you are being a good person especially when using this name. Also when you think about yourself I know you think of cinema and comics, I sort of see Harley Quinn in you. Also she tied back to our family friend who passed and said from what they have been saying it sounds like they had a good soul like yours.  The other person  said to me a bit of the same thing. Like it looks like they had a really goid friend and subconsciously you wanted to remember them. I said that was probably part of it as I had mentioned before. Also I have a what I would co...

  Last Thursday til Sunday we had had beat retreat, heart csmp in person for first time since covid. It was great everyone knew I was now Quinn and they all called me Quinn. Of course there were a few slips but they corrected themselves and then immediately apologized. So I told one of the volunteers I was going by Quinn and am non binary.  After I told her she asked me if I changed it legally. I had said no it will be hard with ODSP and things going on at home. She said look until you legally change it I won't be calling you anything but David because that's your name not Quinn.  Quinn is not valid until it's your legal name.   Then there was a  conversation where she was discussing with others LGBTQ and other things. She said I don't care if your boy girl black chinesse white as long as your respectful we can get along. Even said knew a trans person. But because I couldn't change name legally I couldn't get same respect. 

  I was thinking after the pist I wrote yesterday and the conversation between my niece and parent's about the wedding. Well actually two things about the wedding one was a bit selfish so I scrapped it. Or I think it was a bit selfish so I will get into them.  As I mentioned last night it was upsetting that I was referred to as David and will most likely be invited to the wedding as David. Eventhough my niece said she would use preferred name and pronouns as well as her fiance.   One thing I was thinking of about the wedding and one of the least impactful or in my opinion anyway.   I had planned on giving a speech saying as Quinn I am very happy to.welcome Wade to our family. Yes it's true that Greg's family knows me as my former name but I am introducing myself in my as Quinn in my toast. That would cause nothing but major problems that I truly don't need    Another thing I was thinking about was what would be a cool would be to show up part...