QUINN VS THE GOLIATH'S AKA AS THEIR FAMILY SOME FRIEN'S

    Ever since I "officially" became Quinn I have been treated much differently. As a matter of fact as I have mentioned it started well before that. I have of course mentioned through other entry's. But when I was bisexual and still going by my deadname (David) a name I unfortunately still have to hear on a daily basis because that is not me. Or "i" don't feel it is me.

 I have heard more than once yes that is you, it must be that is what you were born you are my son. Both mom and dad have ssid that. Also my brother innlaw and sister refuse to acknowledge the real me. The Quinn personality I've always had buy has always been semi dormant. I say semi dormant because of always having the feeling of being bisexual. But discovering much more and I feel so euphoric on phone Facebook and 8/10 times when I'm out.

 I say 8/10 times because I'm still getting called by my last name or my deadname. And they have been reminded several times I'm QUINN not DAVID I have said that's my de adname more than once I won't respond to that. That's why I'm so happy if I miss it at poker others will remind in a tactful friendly way.  

 I've had a few friends say to me having to bend to pressure is hurting me mentally. I never really considered it til now. But wanting to be the true me, and having to sometimes switch back to my deadname hurts at times. I'm glad so many will say Quinn or use my pronouns. 

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  1. Kerry GibsonMay 28, 2022 at 4:10 AM

    I wonder if your family members would change the way they speak to you, regarding your pronouns and your name vs your birth name, if THEY were the ones who suffered the physical and mental reprocussions when you are called a name that THEY are comfortable with - showing they don't care about your comfort level AT ALL. Due to the incredible amount of stress it causes to be "dead named", you have, time and time again, had increased seizure activity surrounding heated discussions with family members. Seizures have even increased because they are afraid to be embarrassed by the choice of clothing you wear even though you are nearly 50 years old. You can BET if ANYONE tried to tell THEM what to do, they wouldn't stand for it. For them to expect you to be treated like a teenager is ridiculous. Yes, you have disabilities. You are also a GROWN MAN and FULLY CAPABLE of deciding your life choices. Nothing about your gender is (or ever was) up to them.

    Seeing you be treated with such bigotry and disrespect is painful and heartbreaking as your friend and as a parent of a transgender kid. Never in his journey has the thought ran through my mind to say "Nathan, stop dressing like that, you're embarrassing everyone. You can only be who I want to be." Children - even adult children - are not the property of their parents.

    The parents job is to love their children unconditionally and to be the landing pad for when life's punches get to be too much. Thankfully, Nathan is getting the support he needs in order to keep him alive. Your family...is dropping the proverbial ball a thousand times a day and they don't even seem to care that you are visibly hurting from them not accepting you for who you truly are. I'm so sorry.

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