HAVING SO MUCH IN PLATE I ALWAYS ACCEPTED MY GIVEN LIFE

 🏳️‍🌈 So this title is very interesting in a few different ways for sure. First off as people who have been following all three my journeys my life battles and struggles with both epilepsy and CHD. Then my recent journey that I must say wasn't as recent as I would actually say. It was just a hidden journey until recently.                                           For everybody who knows me they until very recently have known me as David or Bezer as it was a poker nickname becsuse of 4 David's at one point. I had/have what you would refer to as the most unique last name and that is how that started. Wasn't a disrespect thing and I never saw it as one more of a nickname to separate. 

 Now that I have been slowly moving forward in my journey after fully coming out, and discovering or rather shall we say admitting things I was both forced to bury over the year's. Then because I was forced to bury them like another friend from my past it seemed natural to keep them buried. 

 That was until a friend from poker a friend from camp and really good friend all convinced me it was actually hurting me more keeping everything buried. So I decided as everyone knows was time to come out. But even after coming out something still wasn't totally clear I'll explain. 

 Yes I was born David Bezer so when I was born I was obviously born AMAB= Assinged Male At Birth. And all throughout school I accepted this I figured I had to because for much of my schooling I believed the Bible "was gospel" and if I had said anything or come out I was going down not up. Especially with my religious family as I've described. 

 Then when I started to be more independent in my thinking I wondered am I only meant to look like this 24/7, my reason for wondering was actually I don't feel like it all the time. Plus I know I do have for lack of a better term more feminine side than say the average guy. So often I felt other names would suit me. Then felt fine as David this is why I feel perfect as Quinn.

 1 it suits both my "masculine side of myself. It's not to much on the feminine scale. 

2 The feminine side never has to think the same way. That to much like a guy's name day like if I stayed with David.🏳️‍🌈💛🤍💜🖤

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